Friday, July 30, 2010

The Controversy of Lingam Massage

I think this is an ethical issue and should be discussed rather thoroughly. For those that don't know. Here's an article about what the massage is really about. It's kind of difficult to judge something we know nothing about right? So to be fair, here's a short education on Lingam massage:



The Sanskrit word for the male sexual organ is Lingam and is loosely translated as "Wand of Light." In Tantra or Sacred Sexuality, the Lingam is respectfully viewed and honored, as a "Wand of Light" that channels creative energy and pleasure.

Orgasm is not the goal of the Lingam massage although it can be a pleasant and welcome side effect. The goal is to massage the Lingam, also including testicles, perineum and Sacred Spot (prostate) externally, allowing the man to surrender to a form of pleasure he may not be accustomed to. From this perspective both receiver and giver relax into the massage.

Men need to learn to relax and receive. Traditional sexual conditioning has the man in a doing and goal oriented mode. The Lingam Massage allows the man to experience his softer, more receptive side and experience pleasure from a non-traditional perspective.

Beginning the Massage

Have the receiver lie on his back with pillows under his head so he can look up at his partner (giver). Place a pillow, covered with a towel, under his hips. His legs are to be spread apart with the knees slightly bent (pillows or cushions under the knees will also help) and his genitals clearly exposed for the massage. Before contacting the body, begin with deep, relaxed breathing. Gently massage the legs, abdomen, thighs, chest, nipples, etc., to get the receiver to relax. Remind the receiver to breathe deeply and to sink deeper into relaxation.

Pour a small quantity of oil on the shaft of the Lingam and testicles. Begin gently massaging the testicles, taking care to not cause pain in this sensitive area. Massage the scrotum gently, causing it to relax. Massage the area above the Lingam, on the pubic bone. Massage the perineum, the area between the testicles and anus. Take time when massaging the shaft of the Lingam. Vary the speed and pressure. Gently squeeze the Lingam at the base with your right hand, pull up and slide off, then alternate with your left hand. Take your time doing this, right, left, right, left, etc. Then, change the direction by starting the squeeze at the head of the Lingam and then sliding down and off. Again, alternate with right and left hands.



Massage the head of the Lingam as if you are using an orange juicer. Massage all around the head and shaft. In Tantra there are many nerve endings on the Lingam that correspond to other parts of the body. It is believed that many ailments may be cured by a good Lingam massage. The Lingam may or may not go soft as you perform this technique. Do not worry if it doesn't get hard again. You will probably find that it will get hard, then go soft, get hard again, etc., which is a highly desirable Tantric experience, like riding a wave, bobbing up and down. Hardness and softness are two ends of the pleasure spectrum.

If it appears that the receiver is going to ejaculate, back off, allowing the Lingam to soften a little before resuming the massage. Do this several times, coming close to ejaculation, and then backing off. It is important to remember that the goal is not orgasm in and of itself. Men can learn the art of ejaculatory mastery and control by coming close to ejaculation and then backing off on the stimulation. Deep breathing is key here and will soften the urge to ejaculate. Eventually ejaculatory mastery will allow you to make love as long as you want and you can become multi-orgasmic without losing a drop of semen. Orgasm and ejaculation are two different responses that you can learn to separate. The result is a very expanded sex life.

The Sacred Spot

Find and massage the male Sacred Spot. There is a small indentation about the size of a pea or maybe larger midway between the testicles and anus. Be gentle and push inward. He will feel the pressure deep inside and it may be uncomfortable at first. Eventually, as this area is worked on and softened, he will be able to expand his orgasms and master ejaculatory control. You can massage his Lingam with your right hand and massage his Sacred Spot with your left hand.

Try pushing in on this spot when he nears ejaculation. The man may have strong emotions come up during access to the Sacred Spot. Be the best friend and healer he could have in that moment. You, the giver, are creating a place of trust and intimacy.

Ending the Massage

When he feels complete (with the massage), gently remove your hands cover him and keep him warm. Most importantly, allow him to rest quietly for at least five to ten minutes.


For more info you can go to http://www.whitelotuseast.com/LingamMassage.htm

I can't say its legalized prostitution but it is definitely in the very gray area where most questionable things are. For business people to exploit it is kind of scary, because it is just a small step away from full blown intercourse.

Sunday, July 25, 2010

Cebu Restaurant Review: Roma Mia



The pasta in Roma Mia is considered one of the best in Cebu City. Meat may be scarce though if you get one of their Mobster Meals but nevertheless, it's still pretty tasty. They have seafood and spicy kinds of pasta as well, it's really quite delicious. Don't forget their pizza. That's not bad as well.

I'm not one of them foodies. Don't get me wrong, I love food but I go for the overall experience.

I've been there a lot of times and the problem I often encounter is that, it takes forever to get a waiter's attention. I'm not sure if they're undermanned or just untrained. The food sometimes takes too long to reach you too, so maybe it is a case of under-manning.

This is worse than the outlet in Ayala not accepting credit card sometimes. This of course is tolerable as their dishes aren't that expensive anyway so I think it's still value for money and I appreciate that.

Again I reiterate though, that until they improve their service - it's not easy to patronize them that's for sure.

Saturday, July 17, 2010

Cebu Store Review: AudioNet vs. Junrex Cellphones and Accessories

AudioNet sells cellphones and cellphone accessories. I get my Globe load there often because it's the most convenient for me. But their customer service is just horrible. I've actually stopped going there and started going to their competitor across the mall - Junrex Cellphones and Accessories.

The people in Junrex are certainly a lot nicer. Although both stores don't accept Ayala Mall's EGC - that means Electronic Gift Certificate, I think Junrex pulls it off a lot better by being nicer overall.

Cebu Store Review: Executive Optical (EO)




Executive Optical is a known eye wear store that supposedly carries all the famous brands in terms of sun glasses and eye glasses. I've had a couple of experiences though that are rather disturbing and disappointing

  • Issue #1 - If you have something you'd like exchanged, forget about it! They are also not that competent so you have to know what you're buying. If you're not knowledgeable about eye-wear, you better get someone who is or otherwise you may get scr*wed. Anyway here's what happened to me.
  • Bought my boyfriend Oakley shades there. He's a sucker for Oakley shades and apparently so am I. Went there looking for brown canteen and so they get me the item I want put it in a box and off I go. However, after I gave it to my boyfriend - he notices that the shades were not brown but rust (Now call me stupid, but how was I supposed to tell the difference?). I tried to return the shades - before 7 days. I claimed that they gave me the wrong item. The box was labelled brown but the item inside was confirmed as rust. They confirmed it as well. Anyway, I was told they could do nothing about it. Boohoo for me
  • Issue #2 - Boyfriend's old square wire shades broke just a few months back and he tried to get the warranty from Executive Optical. The warranty was just about to end. Executive Optical told him they'd call but they never did.
The people at G-Force are much nicer. They were the ones who told us that there was a 1-year warranty to begin with. Now that's customer service. I've sworn off Executive Optical already. Good thing G-Force opened in Ayala Center too. Now I can just buy Oakley stuff there.


Cebu Store Review: Charles and Keith




I absolutely adore Charles and Keith. Whenever I pass by that shoe store I just drool over all the great designs and amazingly gorgeous high heels. They are just to die for!

And to die for is just probably the right phrase for it given that I haven't bought a pair that doesn't hurt. Don't get me wrong, I'm such a cheapskate I probably only have a couple or so pairs of Charles and Keith and they are so beautiful BUT they hurt so bad.

There's something about the way the shoe was made that just hurts near the toe area. Or maybe my foot is just wide? Don't just take my word for it though, I've asked around and many have given me feedback that their Charles and Keith pretty shoes also hurt. But all agree to how beautiful they are.

Hey Charles and Keith people! Your shoes are so beautiful but my feet disagree because of the pain. Hope they try to fix it. At some point, I need to be able to wear the shoes to appreciate them.

Cebu Store Review: Manel's Shoes




I've been to Ayala numerous times over the last few days, hunting for decent office shoes. It's come to my attention that Manel's has been having a sale for like forever. Are they going bankrupt? Or is it just a wily promotion to bloat prices and then give everyone half off?

It's kind of difficult to keep having 50% off on all items all the time right? Anyway, haven't gone in the store yet, as the last time I was there about a month ago, there wasn't any new stock. But maybe there's some now

KC Montero is Cassandra Monteroid



KC Montero Is The Next Bb Gandanghari?

Has KC Montero turned into the next Bb Gandanghari right after the conversion of the infamous Rustom Padilla?

KC Montero has done some outlandish stuff in his hey-day. I'm not sure if he's still in his hey-day but well... he still has his own radio show and a lot of artists do think he is interesting, so there must be something to it.

Just recently apparently he lost a bet, as a consequence he has to dress up as Cassandra Monteroid. The bet involved none other than worldwide teen pop star Justin Bieber. The boy behind the annoyingly sensationalized song "Baby" and "One Time."

Somebody must have relayed his tweet which went "Lets start a campaign for Justin Bieber to follow me. I will come to work in drag if he does." Last July 5 - it happened and so KC Montero had to dress up like this all the following week. He's even prettier than ex-partner Geneva Cruz